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We all know how draining and irritating a whining child can be, especially in a day care environment where a chorus of multiple whiners can seriously challenge your sanity. The constant, ongoing, nerve grating torture that is a whiny child is much harder to handle than a full blown, short lived tantrum. Fear not, it is possible to deal with the offending whinester and restore some semblance of peace and tranquillity.

Many whining scenarios are precipitated by simple factors such as hunger, tiredness, boredom and feeling unwell. Attempting to identify if any of these are the triggers can help minimize the whinefest. However, sometimes whining has simply become a way of communicating for some children and, if not dealt with can continue for many years as a very unattractive trait. Though there is no sure fire way of curing whining there are methods you can use to help prevent outbreaks.

Attracting adult attention can often be the reason a child whines usually as a last resort. They are demanding adult recognition via this annoying method in a last ditch attempt. Adults, we have the power to acknowledge the little ones. Listening to what kids are trying to say can often head off the irritating behavior. Get down to their level and find out what's going on. If necessary, spend some one on one time helping with a puzzle or reading a story. Peaceful times can often be achieved via a little constructive attention.

Children need to learn the difference between various tones of voice and discovering how whining sounds is no different. Explain to the child that a whiny voice is not pleasant, that people don't like it and they stop listening. Help them to understand the negative effect of that sound by involving them in role play or tape recording the whiny voice versus the normal voice. Listening to themselves as a third party can be effective in helping them understand why whining is bad. Remember to praise the use of a normal voice when appropriate.

A child will whine when she is unable to express herself. Try to recognise when this is the case and instead of reprimanding try to help the child verbalize their needs. Help her with the verbage so she is encouraged to tell you what is wrong. Discussing feelings and needs means the child has less reason to whine. The realisation that talking about her issues is more productive than whining will result from your positive attention.

Distraction is a great tool when a child is whining. The whines can be silenced by completely switching the subject and animatedly indicating something fun. 'Did you see that squirrel out there?' A bored child is a whiney child so recognise the signs of a kid on the road to boredom city. Anticipate tedium and introduce a fun and absorbing activity. The whining option won't be considered when a child is busy.

A child seeking recognition recognises any attention as a success so don't do negative attention. Try not to shout. Never label a child a whiner - this is not a standard or expectation you want to set for them. Never capitulate and remain calm. Giving in after 20 minutes of incessant whining sends a message to the child that persisting with this behavior pays off. They must realise that only a normal voice elicits a positive response. It's tough but stay the course and you could have a positively serene enviornment.

Fiona Lohrenz draws on her 10 years of running a day care to write articles on all aspects of child care. She also pours this wisdom into her childcare website and has used it to produce a 'How to Start a ChildCare Business' DVD guide: Start A Childcare Business DVD Fiona can be found at her website: ChildCareOnly.com